how to ask for a reference after being fired

How to Ask for a Reference After Being Fired

If you’ve just been fired, then you might be worried about what type of references people at your previous employer will give you.

As you get your job search fired up, and the initial sting of being back in the job market softens, it’s a good idea to circle back to Human Resources at your last company to talk references.

Your Approach

First, remember that good relationships with former employees matter to employers. They want probably want to preserve their brand and reputation just as much as you do. Smart companies want to make you happy.

Next, contact your former manager’s HR business partner. Explain that you’ve started your search and that you want to discuss why you left the company to see if your stories align.

Do this in a friendly manner:

Hi Bob,

Can we set up a call to talk about my references from you and Paula?

I’ve scheduled some job interviews and realize that people will be asking me why I left XYZ Co. When they start checking my references, you’ll likely be getting some calls with the same question.

I’m pretty open this Friday morning if that’s good for you.

Thank you,

Chris

Anticipate What Human Resources Might Say

HR might respond in a number of ways:

  1. Happy to talk! Does 10:00 a.m. on Friday work for you?
  2. We have a company policy of not providing references.
  3. I’ll ask Paula to write you a letter of recommendation.

Talking with HR

If HR will talk with you, they will probably take care of you. Thus, you can exhale.

When Your Former Company Doesn’t Provide References

If HR puts you off, see if your former boss or any of your former colleagues will agree to give you “personal references.” Be sure to align your departure story with each of those people. While they’ll probably put a personal slant on it in a reference call, you should be fine if you’re in agreement on the basics.

When recruiters and hiring managers ask for your references, tell them your former company doesn’t provide references. Next, offer to put them in touch with former colleagues who will provide personal references. They can take it from there.

BTW, this is a common situation. Don’t worry about it.

Reference Letters

Reference letters are a relic of the last century. Thank HR for the offer and ask if your former manager will write you a LinkedIn recommendation instead. Or ask that person yourself.

If it’s a good recommendation, you can accept it. If not, you don’t have to let it post on your profile.

Good News: Former Employers Have a Leniency Bias

It might comfort you to know that employers have been found to have a leniency bias when giving references for former employees.

They do this because they:

  1. Don’t want you to sue them.
  2. Want you to get a new job.
  3. Are more loyal to people they know than people they don’t know.

Thus, your odds of a positive reference are better than you think.

A Possible Silver Lining

Now for the fun part:

I’ve seen a COO recommend a Director-level employee fired from their company to another company for a VP role.

The person who got let go ended up fitting in, doing a great job, and making more money than the VP who fired them.

Thus, don’t hesitate to ask for a reference after being fired. Your request might actually turn into the best job lead ever! Getting fired, good luck or bad luck? Who knows?

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Updated May 2019

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Comments 1

  1. I think more often than not also it’s about showing a good face and corporate image, as much as giving people a fresh start.

    However, if an employee IS poor at his or her job, isn’t it being dishonest to give them a glowing reference? I’d think it depends on providing a case of his or her personal strengths.

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